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Courageous Conversation Workshops

Bridging Divides for a More Courageous Democracy | Brooke Deterline | TEDxSonomaCounty

A recent TEDxTalk provides a glimpse of the methodology. 

“Yes, it was helpful at work and in political conversations, but the best part was it’s been great with my wife! Learning to really listen has changed my marriage.”

- Rotarian

PROVEN MODEL

Courageous Leadership and Berkeley Rotary Club are expanding the reach and impact of the successful “Courageous Conversations” program pioneered by Courageous Leadership, Berkeley Rotary and District 5160 in 2016-2019. We delivered evidence-based, skills-building programs for constructive collaboration across differences to 500+ Rotarians and friends from 40+ Clubs, in a series of events around Northern California.

This project combines Rotary’s community service model with Courageous Leadership’s evidence-based, skills-building program for constructive conversations and collaboration on local issues across our differences.

LEARN SCIENCE-BASED STRATEGIES FOR:

  • Respectful & effective conversations & collaboration across differences.

  • Decreased distress & increased hope & motivation.

  • Increased understanding of how to overcome divisiveness & polarization.

  • Using these skills at home, in community & at work.

  • Social Fitness Training™ to better understand & respond in challenging situations.

  • Compassion & courage to transform conflict.

BUILDING CONNECTIONS

Our 2025 workshops will focus on bringing together more Rotarians and especially non-Rotarians concerned about the level of divisiveness in our country, but without a clear idea of how to help connect across our differences for a more civil, peaceful and effective democracy.  


Participants will also have the opportunity during the second part of the day to:

  • Practice their new skills on topics of their choice, through our partnership with Living Room Conversations.  

  • Join a discussion, led by Dan Thomas, on a recent bipartisan report and effort through Braver Angels on Rebuilding Trust in Our Elections.

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PROVEN IMPACT

Third-party research by Jonathan Haidt’s Civil Politics, showed the “Courageous Conversations” program yielded some of the highest results of any of the many “bridging divides” programs they had evaluated, with statistically significant increases in:

  • A sense of belonging,

  • Willingness to work across difference to achieve common goals, and

  • Motivation to bridge differences

An internal evaluation of the initial Rotary “Courageous Conversations” showed that:

  • 94% of participants want Rotary to continue to develop these sessions;

  • 92% learned important information; and

  • 86% will behave differently in the future because of the training.

Participants Leave More:

  • Hopeful

  • Confident in their abilities to engage across differences

  • Capable of creating goodwill 

  • Committed to increasing their conversations across differences

  • Interested in building relationships and working together


“These are some of the, if not the, strongest results we’ve seen in any of the programs and groups we’ve assessed.”

— Jonathan Haidt’s Civil Politics Data Assessment Group


DETAILED DESCRIPTION

In our highly interactive workshop, participants learn the social and evolutionary psychology of why well-intended people can easily act in unproductive ways in challenging social environments (like hyper-partisanship). Participants learn and practice using tools to increase compassion, curiosity, and courage across difference to leverage and transform conflict. Using Social Fitness Training ©, an evidence-based cognitive behavioral model, participants have the opportunity to role play challenging situations to retrain the way we think and act under pressure in divisive times.  Participants learn to respond in challenging situations to foster connection, understanding, and the possibility of collaborative action. The workshop is also fun!


“Your work is brilliant and so very important. Your message and approach is a vital path forward to greater peace, understanding and healing on a personal and societal level. Thank you for your leadership and generous spirit.” 

— Robin Milan, Rotary Multi-District 4-Way Fest Conference Chair 

WHY COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS

Courageous Leadership’s Courageous Conversations programs are built on a solid foundation of social science. For close to two decades, Courageous Leadership has helped people recognize invisible systemic influences and subtle social cues for fear and stress that can lead to dehumanizing, avoiding, and lashing out. We train people to act with compassion, ethical courage, and ingenuity. Our evidence-based tools have been used with clients including Salesforce, Microsoft, Hewlett Foundation, The Center for Domestic Peace, GE, Pfizer, Kaiser Permanente, Columbia University Medical Center, and the Australian Government. The Rotary project falls under our Courageous Democracy initiative. 

WHY ROTARY

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Rotary is one of the few groups in the United States that continues to have a high level of trust, and where people from many backgrounds and perspectives build bonds while achieving results together. 

Rotary’s “Service Above Self” model may hold the antidote to three pressing concerns: 

  • Hyper-partisanship 

  • The need for fractured communities to learn to come together, and

  • The epidemic of loneliness

Courageous Conversations is part of Rotary’s overall effort to Heal Divides, that includes Livingroom Conversations, Civil Discourse and Braver Angels.

Learn More Below!

Meet the Team

  • Brooke Deterline

    Brooke Deterline

    FOUNDER

  • Ken White

    EXECUTIVE CONSULTANT

  • Donald Proby

    EXECUTIVE CONSULTANT

  • Ryan Lamberton

    EXECUTIVE CONSULTANT

  • Bradford "Brad" Howard

    EXECUTIVE CONSULTANT

A special thank you to the Courageous Conversations Rotarian Team:

  • Maxim Schrogin, Dan Thomas, Fred Collignon, Grier Graff, Jane Louie, Michael DeWilde, David Campbell, Anne Pardee, Ken McCroskey, Steve Beckendorf,  Kathy Clemens, Joanne Dickerson-Harper’s, Helena Meyer-Knapp, Trudy Triner, Pamela Doolan

Our Advisors

Van Jones

CNN Political Contributor

CNN

Liz Joyner

Co-Founder & ED

Village Square

Duf Sundheim

Mediator

Republican Party Chair

Lori Grange

Strategy Officer

Hewlett Foundation

Fred Collignon

Professor Emeritus

UC Berkeley


Resources

The United States of Anxiety

Courageous Conversations is part of Rotary’s overall effort to Heal Divides, that includes Livingroom Conversations, Civil Discourse and Braver Angels.

Courageously Promoting Peace

Bridging Divides for a More Courageous Democracy at TEDx